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Divorcing a high conflict personality can be one of the most challenging periods you may ever go through in your life. The Spin Divorce Coaching Program is designed to support you with this.
Many narcissists use and employ the same tactics and techniques during divorce and as we unpack the games they play, that knowledge is power.
After studying the psyche of the narcissist, it becomes easier to predict their behaviour and the strategies they will employ, making it easier to protect yourself and move forward in your divorce.
You may hear or read about variations of the types of narcissists that exist. There seems to be many different names but they are essentially the same type. I like to categorize them into three types that are easy to understand and to define.
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Now that you have begun to decode the type of narcissist you may be facing in your divorce battleground, let's take a look at the some of the categories we will unpack in this course:
- The 10 Biggest Mistakes that People Make When Divorcing A Narcissist and ways to Avoid Them
- The Energy and Emotions of the High Conflict Divorce
- Protecting Your Financial Well-Being
- How to Hire the Right Lawyer the First Time
- Safeguarding: Physical, Electronic and in The Family Courts
- Parenting Plans that Work
- Custody: What it Takes to Have a Better Outcome
- Parallel Parenting Challenges and Solutions
- Going to Trial
- Bonus Material
This preparation and planning course is designed to educate and empower you. To help you work better with your lawyer, or to prepare you if you are self-represented. (Pro Se).
It is often what you don't know in the high conflict divorce that can hurt you the most.
This course will take you from naive to empowered by filling up your toolbox and mentally preparing you for the battleground the narcissist sets up for you.
With the tips and tools in this course, you can avoid the quicksand of the Family Justice System by staying focused, on track and operating from a place of knowledge. Being educated and prepared sets you up for a better outcome. By the time you finish this course, the narcissist won't be so sure about using their bullying tactics on you. They prefer an easy target.... and you will definitely not be that.
Remember: You are free to move around the course.
65 Lessons
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Introduction
Welcome
Welcome to the Spin Divorce Coaching Program
MODULE #1: The 10 Biggest Divorce Mistakes to Avoid If You Can
Mistake #1: Leaving Without Paperwork
Gathering and safeguarding paperwork is an important aspect in planning and preparing for divorce with a narcissist.
Mistake #2: Saying Things to the Narcissist that Work Against You
Learn to understand the safest approach to negotiating with the narcissist.
Mistake #3: Not Having A Financial Fallback Position
Learn Ways to Financially Protect Yourself
Mistake #4: Oversharing
Learn why oversharing is not a good strategy.
Mistake #5: Sharing Too Much, Too Early
Post separation abuse can amplify when the narcissist has knowledge.
Mistake #6: Asking for Everything
Understanding the Court's Perspective of Being Reasonable
Mistake #7 Sharing a Lawyer
Understand the reasons why you should never share a lawyer with a narcissist.
Mistake #8: Failing to Understand How Courts View Negotiating
Learn to understand that negotiating is part of the divorce process.
Mistake #9: Not Routinely Keeping Records
Learn the importance of regular and routine record keeping.
Mistake #10: Lack of Self-Care
Learn the importance of caring for yourself during stressful times.
MODULE #2: Money: The Financial Games and How to Protect Yourself
Money 1: Is This the Right Timing for Divorce?
Take the time to examine if divorce is necessary now or can it wait?
Money 2: Is the Narcissist Planning a Discard?
Learn the financial red flags the narcissist may be planning on leaving the marriage.
Money 3: I Think My Marriage is Over
Learning what the steps are in "Now what?".
Money 4: Little Things that You Can Do To Prepare
Learn some little ways you may be able to do to prepare.
Money 5: Large Ticket Items
Learn How the Narcissist Looks at Large Ticket Items and How You Could Learn From That
Money 6: Your Bank Account
Hear Stories How Others Have Protected Bank Accounts
Money 7: Lines of Credit
Learn some options of how to handle available Lines of Credit
MODULE #3: How to Hire the Right Lawyer the First Time
Lawyer Lesson 1: How to Hire the Right Lawyer
Learn the questions you need to ask to find the right legal representation.
Lawyer Lesson 2: Understanding Retainers
Understand Legal Retainers and Set Protocol
Lawyer Lesson 3: When the Relationship Isn't Working
Learn why it is so important to move on, when the legal relationship is broken.
Lawyer Lesson 4: Conflicting out a legal firm
Learn How to Conflict Out a Legal Firm
Is a Divorce Coach Right for You?
Is a Divorce Coach Right for You?
MODULE #4: Safety and Safeguarding
Staying Safe 1: Physical Safety
Learn the ways to safeguard yourself -introduction
Staying Safe: Three Areas of Vulnerability
Learn ways to protect yourself physically.
Staying Safe 3: Electronic Stalking
Learn how to protect your self and remove hackers from your electronics.
Staying Safe 4: Litigation Abuse
Learn ways to handle your vexatious litigator.
6 Red Flag Areas of Family Court
To Introduce the Red Flag Areas of the Family Court
Reg Flag: Optional Visits
Learn the Dangers of Optional Visits
Red Flag: Communication
Learn Best Practices in Communication
This Reg Flag is a "NO-Go" zone
Learn what NOT to share with your child.
Red Flag: Domestic Violence False Claims
Understand how to Protect Yourself from False DV Claims
Red Flag: Parent Alienation
Understand the hottest topic and the family court system.
MODULE #5: How to Create A Parenting Plan that Works
Parenting Plan Introduction
Understand how the Narcissist Can Weaponize Parenting Plan Negotiations
Parenting Plan Lesson 2
Learn what needs to be included in a parenting plan.
Parenting Plan Lesson 3
Learn ways that courts deal with decision making.
Parenting Plan Lesson 4
Learn how important it is to ask the courts for agency enforcement.
Parenting Plan Summary
How to be one step ahead of the narcissist.
MODULE #6: Custody Challenges Specific to the Narcissist
Custody Lesson 1
Introduction to the Custody Module
Custody Lesson 2
Understand the best Interest of children court mandate.
Custody Lesson 3
Understand how past parenting affects parenting decision making
Custody Lesson 4
Learn the 5 Building Blocks of Building Your Custody Case
Custody Lesson 5
The language difference of Victims/Abusers
Custody Lesson 6
Using Descriptive Language to make your case.
Custody Lesson 7
Using Descriptive Language to describe unsafe situations.
Custody Lesson 8
Learn Language to Show A Parent That Won't Take Accountability
Custody Lesson 9
Learn language that aligns with the Courts in regards to Best Interest
Custody Lesson 10
Learn How to Handle the Breach of Court Orders
Custody Lesson 11
Learn Why Mediation can be a hot spot in Custody
MODULE #7: Parallel Parenting With a High Conflict Individual
Parallel Parenting Lesson 1
Define and understand the Courts perspective on Parallel Parenting
Parallel Parenting Lesson 2
Learn how the Courts Define Parallel Parenting
Parallel Parenting Lesson 3
Learning how to cope when a toxic parent withholds communication..
Parallel Parenting Lesson 4
Examine what the courts can do/ choose to do about "parent bashing" and oversharing.
Parallel Parenting Lesson 5
Learn how to deal with manipulation around children's items.
Parallel Parenting Summary
Summarizing the Parallel Parents choice to Mistreat
MODULE #8: Going to Trial
Lesson #1: Introduction
Learn How to Prepare For Trial
Lesson #2: How to dress
How to dress for court
Lesson #3: Having a Devil's Advocate
Understand the Value of Having Someone Play Devil's Advocate with Your Paper Work
Lesson #4: Desensitize through Role Play
Role Play to Desensitize.
Lesson #5: Learning Objections and Best-Practice Emotion
Learn How to Object If You Are Self-Representing
Ways to Combat Post-Separation Abuse
Keeping Fear In Check
Understand How The Narcissist Uses Fear
Simple Tools to Stay in Your Power
Understand Ways to Combat Fear
Staying in Truth
🎁 BONUS 1: Consent to Travel
Examine whether a standardized consent to travel is right for your situation.
🎁 BONUS 2: Health Benefit Signed Direction
Can you stop chasing the narcissist for health benefit reimbursement?